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Even Men Need a ‘Wing Girl’: Exclusive Guide with Relationship Expert Marni Kinr

Most of the time we think of a ‘wing girl’ as the go-to gal proving to be the ultimate ice breaker when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. More often than not women need that buffer to help them build a little more comfort and confidence when it comes to meeting men at parties or while out and about. But what about the fellas? Their ‘wing men’ usually can only get them so far…

Enter MARNI KINRYS, best celebrated as the authoritative “Wing Girl” and expert relationship coach. MARNI KINRYS is single-handedly transforming the dating game by assisting the men on this one. She is providing them with the right tools and skill set to attract, court and get any girl their heart desires through her unique curriculum, THE WING GIRL METHOD.

I know what you are thinking? Another one-of-a-kind, “self-help program” right? Wrong.

Her strategy for #dudebros is a bit more distinct. It offers a behind the curtain perspective into a modern-day heroine’s mind. Marni aids these guys into building strong, masculine character traits which most women crave. Her select technique has been carefully designed to finally bridge the gap in communication between Mars and Venus.

Her witty podcast “Ask Women” and best-selling book, THAT’S NOT HOW MEN WORK, has not only up-ed her street cred from a professional standpoint, but it has catapulted her into one of the most sought after gurus by her peers, beyond the media and establishing mass appeal. Marni’s drive stems from her entrepreneurial spirit, and leading other individuals with new-age empowering advice. Come get some!

NEW THEORY: How effective has your method been with men trying to find people that they actually like for a long-term commitment?

MARNI KINRYS: My method has been extremely helpful in showing men who to go after. It becomes very clear what they want.  Most of what I teach men is about transparent communication and not hiding their TRUE intentions.  What happens with a lot of guys is that they think by putting what they want out there to women, it comes across as rude, disrespectful or aggressive. So instead they hide their intentions, act super polite and self-edit everything that could possibly be interesting to women they want to attract.  I help them to remove this filter and show them that they can ask for what they want and still be awesome men of integrity.

NT: What led you to take on such a path and come up with such a method?  

MK: I wish I could say this has been a strong passion of mine since I was a child, BUT believe it or not, I stumbled into this line of work after making a joke at a ‘singles mixer’.  I had successfully introduced and facilitated conversations for a lot of men at the event and one of them called me his ‘wing girl’.  I went home thinking, “I could do this for more men. I can help them talk to women and create attraction.”  So after I posted an ad on Craigslist at 1:00 am, by the next morning I had over 75 responses from guys who were interested in my services. That’s literally how it started.  It’s certainly evolved into something much bigger. Now I help men all over the world!  My passion for helping people to understand others and take control of their lives, is and will always be my driving force. I just want people to get what they want without resorting to being jerks and wimps.

NT: How have your personal struggles changed your day to day process or impact your motivation for turning boys into men?

MK: My day to day life definitely dictates the advice that I provide to my listeners, subscribers and members.  As I go through things, I relay that information to them.  I used to be one of the guys. I like men, BUT I used to be shy, with low-confidence, and was a nervous wreck who believed I couldn’t just go after what I wanted. I did and have been continuously doing work on myself throughout the growth of my business. Now I carry a tool belt of mechanisms that I can pull from. I pass those tools onto each one of my clients. I’m not standing from a hill preaching to others that they can do something without having done it myself. I really try to walk the walk.

NT: What inspired you to write your book?

MK: Pressure. Ha. I had been trying to write my book for YEARS, but was so down on my own skills to actually write the book. I tried to hire ghostwriters who just didn’t get it, or me, or my advice. They would produce something that would always be void of ME. Then a friend of mine pushed me to just do it myself. Her pressure, plus the pressure from myself that I couldn’t write was definitely the motivator. I needed to get over the hump. Once I started writing, it only took me about a week to complete. 

NT: Has teaching this method had an effect in the way you are with your own husband?

MK: OMG, yes!  I have learned so much about men in general through my decade plus of working with amazing individuals. Things that as a woman, I would never have been privy to.  I have a much better understanding of men and how they work. I use that in my own life when communicating with my husband.  Trust me, I’m still a woman, so I slip sometimes, BUT I can always get back to a good place.

NT: Is there one specific trick which all men should follow or is it different for every person?

MK: EVERY person should work on eliminating the fluff from their conversation. Just say what they want or mean.  I have this matrix chart called The Confidence and Specificity Matrix: the more confident and specific you can be in your communication with ANYONE, the better chance you’ll have of getting what you want, or at the very least getting into a real conversation that could lead to compromise.

NT: Have you ever thought about creating a method for women to find men?

MK: I have one. It’s called, That’s Not How Men Work.  It’s based on all of the work I’ve done with men over the years and all the things I learned ABOUT men that I didn’t know as a woman.  Insider information.  I called it this because over the years I started to notice my advice to my female friends shifting. I wasn’t just comforting them and bashing men to make them feel better. I was constantly saying, “But that’s not how men work,” when they would complain about something.  This would peak their interest and they would inquire, “then how do they work…” and I’d tell them.  That gave them a sense of relief that it wasn’t THEM.  

NT: What do you think of the way people interact today in the dating world? With social media, online dating, apps, etc.?

MK: I think like everything else, there are pros and cons to it. The pros are that there are SOOOOO many more options.  The cons are that there are SOOOO many more options. Like anything, if you use it wisely and with clear intention, it can be very successful for you.

NT: Do you think it will get easier to meet a potential partner, or is it more difficult than ever?

MK: As I said above, if used the right way online tools can be awesome.  BUT, I do still think it must be combined with real life interaction options so that you don’t become a total drone. 

NT:  How did you and your husband meet?

MK: I actually dated a couple of his friends.  Then one of the friends invited me to a weekend hang out and he told me to bring cute friends.  It didn’t work out with that guy and I knew he had cute friends SO I of course went.  I met my husband on the beach that day.  I wasn’t attracted to him at first, but we had a nice conversation.  I kept seeing him out and every time I saw him he got more comfortable with me. He would tease me and challenged me, and I liked it.  By the 3rd time I saw him, I asked him for his number. The rest is history! 

NT:   What are distinguishing qualities a man should have that a boy does not?

MK: Strength, sense of self and emotional control. 

NT:  Tell us about your “Chick-Tionary”… Can you give us an example of a term we should all know?

MK: The word NOTHING.  To men it actually means nothing…. as it should.  To women it means “SOMETHING” and you better figure out what it is in under 30 seconds or you are F’d”. 

NT: The “Friend Zone” is a common problem in today’s world. What is the biggest tip you can provide to stay out of it?

MK: Stop being so friendly.  I have a great article I wrote on this topic.  See here: http://www.winggirlmethod.com/how-to-go-from-friend-to-lover-in-3-easy-steps/

NT: Now that women are typically in a less submissive role than in the past, what is it exactly that women are looking for in a man, especially if they are in a position to financially support themselves?

MK: The same things that they have always looked for in a man.  Support, love and UNDERSTANDING.  But that’s once they are attracted and connected to a guy.

They are looking for confidence, passion, fun and excitement. 

Topics Marni Discusses:

• “The Chick-Tionary”
• “Friend Zone: Get Out and Stay Out”
• Building Your Masculine Confidence
• Activating A Social Life Women Die To Be Part OF
• Approaching & Talking To Women
• How to Be Seen by Women As A Lover Not a Friend
• How to get your girl to watch sports
• How to get more responses from online dating
• Steps to approaching groups of girls
• How to be more than “just friends”
• And much more!

An Interview From Beyond: Exclusive with FreeForm’s ‘Monica The Medium’

FreeForm, formally ABC Family, not only has a brand new breakout show, but a contemporary and jaw-dropping reality icon making headlines, “Monica the Medium”. Airing Monday’s on the network, Monica is about to close out her 2nd season of the hit show, traveling through San Diego with a bevy of fresh clients, characters, plot lines, and shocking spiritual twists and revelations.

Without a doubt her life has been anything but ordinary as she shares with everyone, a modernistic and social media driven culture, her ability to communicate with those who have crossed over. Maintaining a balance between her own life and those connections which transform the lives of complete strangers is what makes her journey so special.

A proclaimed ‘old soul’, after realizing her talent and sense of prophetic knowledge and understanding, Monica decided to pursue a degree in PR/Communication at the highly-accredited Penn State University, where she continued learning how to channel the growth of her capabilities.

“Monica the Medium” was contacted by several established producers in the entertainment industry, quickly expanding her credibility and popularity, before her gut told her to go with this current opportunity on the west coast. Monica’s natural energy and presence on camera have made her an instant fan-favorite inspiring a community.

As the first and only original reality series on Freeform to get picked up for an intense second season, audiences from all over are invested in her powerful readings. New Theory Magazine gets an inside scoop on her rare gift.

NEW THEORY: How did you discover you had a gift for communicating with spirits?

I had always been intuitive and emphatic growing up, but didn’t start sensing Spirit around me until I was about 15 years old.  It really started with me being around certain friends and acquaintances. They’d be telling a story about a loved one who had died and I would hear or see the next part of the story before they’d finish telling it! In addition, I’d also be feeling all these emotions and sensations that I couldn’t explain. 

At the time I was still afraid of expressing what was happening…I didn’t want my peers to judge me and I also wondered if maybe it was all in my head and just a coincidence, or that I might even be crazy or sick with a brain tumor.

But once it started happening around strangers, I knew this wasn’t some “lucky guess” and that it was absolutely spirits communicating with me. I would share what I was hearing, seeing, feeling, and these people that I had never met before would start crying being like, “Wow, how’d you know all that about my loved one?” and as more and more people received the validation through the messages, I was receiving the validation that this connection to Spirit was in fact REAL and that it was a gift of healing I was meant to share.

NT: How did/do family, friends, or people in general react to your ability?

When I first came out of the “medium closet”, some of my friends were skeptical, but once they experienced it for themselves or witnessed someone else get a reading, they became full believers and have been incredibly supportive ever since!  

I have three sisters and they all have pretty much been #TeamMedium since the start! LOL. My parents on the other hand, took a lot longer to come around. My mom comes from a very Catholic, conservative, Hispanic background and so she initially questioned if this was a gift from God or if it could be coming from something negative. With my dad, he works as an auditor and so he’s a very analytical thinker. Initially, he was not sure what to believe, and only just recently witnessed my gifts in person when he came to an event that I did in San Diego (which you see in episode 7 this season). He has always supported me, but I think after that event he’s now fully a believer! 

I’ve noticed now that I’m living in San Diego, that people out here are a lot more open to what I do! So in general people react very positively when I tell them I’m a medium.

NT: How do your readings usually come to you? Are they clear images? Do you need help interpreting them? Etc.?

When I start to channel Spirit, I will often feel, hear, sense, and see things all at the same time that I then piece together in order to interpret the message for my client. Spirit will also show me signs and symbols that are part of my own “Spirit Dictionary” so I’ll already have a meaning for it. Communicating with the spirit world is not the same as communicating with people in the physical world. I see Spirit in my mind’s eye (like the way people will see images in a day dream) and I hear Spirit in my thought’s voice. Sometimes it’s as clear as an HD television screen or a radio tuned into the perfect frequency…and other times it can be a little fuzzier depending on the Spirit or personal factors (for example, if I’m running on no sleep or I’m 5 tequila shots deep the connection won’t be as strong LOL). 

NT: How did you learn to channel translating these messages through the deceased and their loved ones?

It’s kind of like playing an instrument in that for some people it comes so naturally. For me it was as soon as I stopped suppressing it that my gift got much stronger and then with daily meditation and more and more experience giving readings, my connection developed really quickly.

NT: Do messages ever get mixed up, or perhaps no messages come through at all during a reading?

Sometimes things get mixed up, but not because messages aren’t coming through, but because it may be for someone else! A couple years ago I was giving a reading to a client at my home, and the girl brought her roommate who waited for her downstairs. So I’m bringing through the messages from Spirit and the client was not connecting to any of it!!! I was so confused because the Spirit I was communicating with was so strong and it was clearly for someone! Turns out every last detail and message connected to the client’s roommate who was waiting for her downstairs. Spirit comes through for who NEEDS it the most, not necessarily for who wants it the most or is just curious. 

NT: Do you simply connect with spirits, revisit past experiences, or do you have more of a psychic aptitude?

I am simply a Spirit Medium who communicates with those who’ve crossed over. I’m not a psychic so I don’t predict the future or do any fortune telling. Occasionally, the loved ones in Spirit will talk about an upcoming event in your life if it’s already in motion. For example, I’ve had a Spirit come through in a reading and have me give the message, “Congratulations…you have a baby on the way!” and then I’ll get an email a week later from the client saying she just found out she’s pregnant!  

NT: Many people come to you in hope for answers, or in search of closure, how often are you able to fill that void for them and what does it feel like?

Getting a reading will never make you stop missing your loved ones and it won’t completely fill that hole in your heart, but it absolutely brings so much healing and comfort. For a lot of people it even gives them their life back. Layers of grief are peeled away and they can start LIVING again, after years of allowing the pain to keep them from getting out of bed in the morning and continuing to find the joy in their everyday life. I honestly love that transformation that I cannot just see or hear as far as the feedback that comes from the client, but I can actually feel. It’s like they’re a different person by the end of a reading! I can feel that shift and change of energy, this lightness and this huge weight that’s been lifted off of them because of the feeling and peace that it’s brought them. Really that’s why I do this first and foremost, for the clients, providing them that peace and comfort and allowing them to know their loved ones are around them. They don’t have to be wondering if there’s nothing after life on earth. There is an afterlife and you will be reunited with your loved ones. 

NT: The idea behind the nature of your gift can be a bit controversial- have you ever encountered non-believers, or worse, been accused of deception?

Yes, but that comes with the title. No matter who you are, how many years you’ve been doing this work, and how many readings you’ve given…if you talk to dead people you will ALWAYS have haters, skeptics, people who doubt you, not believe in you, etc. 

I understand where the skeptics are coming from. If I wasn’t the one connecting to Spirits, day after day, I would be skeptical. People should question things! But some people are just so closed minded, and I think a lot of the skeptics just come from a place of fear. I don’t waste my energy on the negative people and online bullies nor am trying to force my beliefs onto anyone. I’d rather continue spending my time bringing healing to a mom whose lost a child, a young girl who lost her dad, etc.

NT: What do you want the younger generation to know, to take away, or be inspired by?

Through my show and the work that I do as a medium, I’ve really tried to break down the stereotypes—this idea that mediums are either creepy or weird and ‘witchy’ or that they are frauds and fakes. I feel like our society is going through a kind of spiritual awakening right now and are becoming more receptive, understanding and okay with the idea of mediums.

I get thousands of messages from younger people that have their own abilities. I hope they are inspired to be true to who they are and not be afraid of what people will think of them if they choose to explore their own connection to the Other Side and maybe even come out of the “medium closet” themselves!

NT: Is there anyone you are looking to reach? Are you personally on a quest or mission for something in particular?

I hope that my work can help people see that life after death DOES exist. That our loved ones are still with us. That love never dies. 

‘Monica The Medium’ season finale airs on June 27th, 2016 on FreeForm.

t’s Shark Week! Here’s How To Avoid Becoming Shark Bait At The Beach

It’s a hot summer day and you are ready to hit the beach. There is only one thing that could put a damper on your fun in the sun… You guessed it, a shark bite! Most of us are so excited to cool off in the waves, we don’t even hear the dinner bell ringing.

With ‘Shark Week’ upon us, and big-budget movies like the family-friendly Finding Dory or Blake Lively’s The Shallows, which is about to be released into theaters, everyone is deep-sea obsessed. However, as much as we all love the adaptation of the unknown, no one wants to become the next ocean headline. By disposition, sharks are undoubtably the ultimate Kings of the Water-world. They may be majestic to look at, but never forget, they are natural-born hunters. That is simply the nature of the beast, both figuratively and literally speaking. So how can you safely enjoy all of your favorite salty adventured activities without having to worry about hearing the dreaded ominous tones of under-water horror?

New Theory breaks down the basics… For seven days straight, it is sink or swim, eat or be eaten, punch that mofo in the nose and just keeping swimming.

Here is your ‘Shark Week’ guide to avoiding becoming bait this summer.

• Do not mimic their nemesis ( Steering clear of dolphins, seals and seabirds is advised). Balancing on surfboards or wearing wet suits can create the illusion that you are prey from a shark’s perspective. I know it may be difficult, but try your hardest to look undesirable. #DAMGINA
• Always swim, dive, surf, with other individuals (big groups or at the very least, a partner) – never alone. Sharks target those who are alone because they do not want to have to struggle when feasting. Plus, dealing with a scramble may even be damaging to their teeth- and they simply cannot have that.
• Be alert of your surrounding environment.
• Find a surfer’s paradise. Don’t swim in waters which have already had attacks or where sharks have congregated to in the past. Sharks are creatures of habit. If you do not know the details about an area, I would contact authorities, lifeguards and seek out specific regional info.
• Skip swimming after heavy showers and rainfall. Typically after a storm, fresh water fish of all varieties, including the ferocious JAWS, have a tendency to migrate into areas that they would not traditionally frequent.
• Stay away from sandbars, trenches, near steep drop-offs or other areas with a high volume of shark activity.
• Only swim in clear water- where you can see what you are swimming among. No dirty or murky water for this guy, sorry Jersey Shore.
• Leave the shiny jewelry at home. The shimmer and reflection is a tempting treat for sharks of all species.

• Do not wear bright, bold colored bikinis or swimsuits that stimulate the scales of fish. There are countless types of fish in the sea, of all shapes and beautifully tropical colors, don’t look like one!
• Believe it or not, uneven tan-lines and contrasting skin colors are known to attract the sea beast. Stay evenly rotated when toasting in the sands.
• Do not swim at dusk or at night. Aside from the fact that it is harder to see, those are prime time feeding hours- otherwise prepare for a foodie frenzy. Sunny, clear days are the best.
• Refrain from excessive splashing if you want to prevent a sharkfest.
• Keep your pets and domestic animals out of the water. Their movement is unpredictable as is a hungry shark.
• Avoid swimming where individuals are boating, fishing, or sewage outfalls. Other distressed fish, especially ones caught in nets or on a hook, signal sharks to hustle on over.
• Do not spread blood or other human waste. Sharks have a strong sense of smell to gravitate towards that way. If you have a cut, exposed wound, or are menstruating, do not go out far for open swim.
• If you see a school of fishies begin to behave erratically, or swim fast in larges numbers-  I’d calmly, yet quickly get out of the water.
• Think like a shark.

Cost of Freedom: Breaking Down America’s Spending This Independence Day

What does the 4th of July mean to you? Or mean to America for that matter? Dollar, dollar bills, that’s what…

As our nation celebrates the 240th anniversary of Independence Day, an entire country of citizens pridefully adorn red, white, and blue. But it isn’t all star-spangled banners, stomachs filled with classic BBQ favorites like hot dogs and watermelon, and shoppers ready to pounce on the mammoth holiday sales…

Nope… that would be preposterous for the United States to be so ignorant as to what it is really supposed to be all about. Freedom? Nah. Liberty? Not so much. Justice for all? Give me a break.

As election year is upon the people, we find ourselves more politically divided than ever. Ya know, equality, gun-control, astronomical debt… real serious sh*t!

In times of reflection, our very own humane morality is constantly being questioned and challenged by each other and the outside borders. Voters beware.

My immediate instinct is to daydream of a much safer time, under the governed rule of the greatest president known throughout our ancient history- Bill Pullman. Let us remember…

“Mankind — that word should have new meaning for all of us today.

We can’t be consumed by our petty differences anymore.

We will be united in our common interests.

Perhaps its fate that today is the 4th of July, and you will once again be fighting for our freedom, not from tyranny, oppression, or persecution — but from annihilation.

We’re fighting for our right to live, to exist.

And should we win the day, the 4th of July will no longer be known as an American holiday, but as the day when the world declared in one voice:

“We will not go quietly into the night!

We will not vanish without a fight!

We’re going to live on!

We’re going to survive!

Today, we celebrate our Independence Day!”

Seriously. Goosebumps ya’ll. I doubt a leader has moved me since. Perhaps that kind of bravery is only in the movies afterall. Anyway…

In case our commonwealth’s educational system has failed miserably and you have retained zero information regarding basic knowledge (quite possible), authentically speaking, July Fourth is a federal holiday commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence in 1776. The Continental Congress announced that the thirteen American colonies distinguished themselves as a new nation, under God, yada, yada, yada… Just wanted to make sure we were all on the same page before moving forward.

Whether you are in the process of chasing the American dream, broke or rich, we are all equal in relating to the big bucks that will be spent this extended weekend. Money, huh? I guess green paper bills are the one thing that we can all agree we need more of, yet most of us continuously consume what we don’t need and pay out what we don’t have. It’s the American way. Besides, doesn’t false patriotism come at a price?

As we salute and memorialize countless nationalistic traditions and moments on every social media platform, our grief seems to be as ‘on steroids’ as our triumphs. It only makes sense that American spending habits would mirror the same sentiment.

  DealsPlus decided to examine the numbers behind America’s 3-day summer recess:

• 79% of people plan on spending $1-50 during the 4th weekend sales
• 3% of people plan on spending upwards of $151 on recreation
• 63% of people will be spending their day at a cookout/BBQ
• 9% of people will be traveling alone or with family
• 27% of people will be watching fireworks
• 48 million consumers shell our hard-earned presidential flashcards just of patriotic gear
• 6.7 billion dollars are spent just on food